The opening you're trying to pass through is as narrow or as wide as your mind. Rather than push harder, I suggest you notice what you're thinking and feel whether it's flexible enough to stretch. In principle, thought should be the most flexible thing in existence; it's made purely of ideas. Yet it seems that humanity has figured out how to cut through stone, mold steel, and forge new elements more readily than it can change its mind, especially on a collective level. It's challenging enough making any decisions at all, and more complex when a second person is added to the equation. Your intimate partners are on their own path at the moment, making choices entirely outside the realm where you can consciously influence them. But you have all the influence in the world over your own choices, if you can think of yourself as an individual and not part of something larger. You might say that's the challenge of the moment. This relates to how, as a much younger person, you could not make a move without some version of family approval. You may have figured out that you can, but in truth it takes most people a long, long time to get there. In order to accomplish this, you don't need to assert your individuality to other people—you need to assert it to yourself.