How much are you willing to reveal about yourself, and why would you hold back at all? There seems to be some tension between what is "really going on" and what you want to be known in some public context. I don't think the paparazzi are after you, but it may feel that way. You could entertain yourself with paranoia about what might come out, though if you're hanging out there I suggest you ask yourself what you want the world to know about you. I don't mean what soap you use. I mean what would ordinarily be considered entirely inappropriate, presumed to be damaging to your reputation or image, and even dangerous. The flirtation is between hold back and let go. There may be a diversity of opportunities you have that you want to explore and the deciding factor may seem to be what people might think. You have some options here: One of them is to blow the doors off and be happy that they might discover anything and everything. Assuming felonies are not involved, that could work out well for you. The obsession with secrecy is one of the things that is choking not just your experience but that of many, many people, and I would count the urge to set ourselves free as a healthy impulse.