What is it about sex? I mean, what is it exactly? Have you noticed that the world seems driven by something that it's simultaneously obsessed with and terrified of? It's time for you to put sex into the category of what is natural: like organic apples, playing Frisbee with a dog or dancing at a concert. Anytime you have a question or a concern, imagine one of those things. Anytime a power struggle manifests, think of a border collie leaping into the air and gleefully snapping a flying object in its jaws. While you're at it, be aware of the faux moral trips that people lay on one another on a regular basis. At a certain point, any mature, happy person must decree that such is utter nonsense, if for no other reason than it's useless for anyone to mind anyone else's business. With this comes one particular necessity: dropping the control drama. This may seem like too much to ask, but freedom is to sexuality what breathing is to yoga. You can hold your breath through your Sun salutation, but only at the expense of depriving your brain of oxygen and turning blue. You can now do something radical: Allow yourself to be free, and openly encourage others to be free. What do you do with jealousy? Recognize it as the toxic emotion that it is, and put it down—just like cigarettes.